GSIL

In Pembroke, New Hampshire, Claire and Kim’s story unfolds, a testament to the transformative power of Granite State Independent Living (GSIL). Their experience highlights the unique dynamic of family caregiving and the profound impact it can have on both the individual receiving support and the family member providing it.

Claire, who faces breathing difficulties that make some basic daily tasks a challenge, found a lifeline through GSIL. “I have required some in-home care for a few years, just to handle basic daily tasks,” she explains. Over the years, Claire has worked with several attendant care employees (ACEs). They visit her house for up to eighteen hours a week and help with tasks like laundry, cooking, and cleaning, affording her the independence of remaining at home while ensuring that she is safe and well cared for.

When her last ACE, Jen, was promoted, Claire looked to someone she knew best to assist her. She didn’t have to look far: she enlisted her daughter Kim to take over as an ACE. This arrangement not only provides her with essential support but also offers a part-time work opportunity for Kim. More importantly, it ensures Claire has a familiar and trusted presence in her home, rather than a stranger.

Initially, there were concerns. “Is it going to work?” Claire wondered. Like any family relationship, there are ups and downs. “We have our days that we don’t talk to each other. We have our days where we yell at each other,” she admits. Yet, the benefits far outweigh the challenges. Kim’s push to keep Claire active has been instrumental in her progress. “I have lost 130 pounds,” Claire shares, attributing it to Kim’s support and encouragement.

The dynamic of having family as a caregiver has brought Claire and Kim closer than ever. Kim has learned patience, and Claire has regained many aspects of her independence. Before GSIL, the possibility of a nursing home loomed large. Now, Claire drives, goes out more, and feels empowered. “If I didn’t have GSIL, I don’t think I’d be able to go out and do things independently,” she says.

Claire’s transformation is remarkable. A year ago, she struggled with simple tasks like walking, driving, and even showering. Today, she leads a far more independent lifestyle. “GSIL has given me my independence,” she affirms. It has also fostered compassion and patience in both of them. Claire has lost weight, is able to drive her own car, and has discovered new possibilities. “GSIL has opened a lot of doors to things I didn’t think I’d be able to do again,” she adds.

Kim’s perspective offers another layer to this story. For her, helping her mom is an act of love. “My mom is my best friend,” she states. Through GSIL, Kim assists Claire with various tasks, from laundry and cleaning to meal prep and personal care. “I love helping my mom,” she says. Being an ACE part-time allows Kim to balance her full-time job and contribute to her family’s financial needs, including wedding plans and support for her son living with autism.

Kim appreciates the flexibility GSIL offers. She can adjust her hours to fit her schedule, ensuring she doesn’t miss out on her other commitments. Moreover, she finds peace of mind in knowing Claire is well cared for. “It makes me feel more at ease knowing that I’m in here doing it,” she explains. She’s seen firsthand how other caregivers interacted with her mom and prefers to ensure Claire’s voice is heard and her preferences respected.

The changes in Claire have been significant. She’s more independent, proactive, and confident. “She’s way more independent now,” Kim observes. Claire now handles tasks she previously relied on Kim for, such as getting a drink or going out for coffee. “I love it because she’s still young,” Kim says, wanting her mom to explore the world and enjoy life.

For Kim, GSIL is a blessing that has shown Claire what she’s capable of. Seeing her mom go out to eat alone or drive around their old neighborhood fills Kim with joy. “Her aura all around is just so much brighter and happier,” she shares.

For families considering GSIL, or for people considering opportunities to be employed as an ACE, Kim offers valuable advice. “Give them a call. It’s worth it,” she encourages. The program provides training, support, and flexibility. She emphasizes the importance of scheduling around existing commitments and highlights the personal fulfillment that comes from helping a loved one.

Ultimately, Claire and Kim’s story is about more than just caregiving. It’s about family, love, independence, and the transformative power of support. GSIL has enabled Claire to reclaim her life and strengthened the bond between her and Kim, proving that with the right support, anything is possible.